Why you should seek therapy even if you think you don’t need it
There has always been a lot of stigma associated with therapy; there is this belief that, if you need therapy, something is wrong.
This may feel true, since most people only look for therapy when there is a specific issue that needs to be resolved, but therapy is not, and should not, be sought out only when someone’s mental health has deteriorated.
Regular therapy sessions are as important as any health check-up: you should consult a therapist, or counsellor, in order to make sure that you are alright, and to prevent more serious issues, not only when the issue is already so deeply rooted that therapy becomes an emergency.
Fortunately, people are talking more, and more openly, about their own mental health, depression, and anxiety, but it still remains a bit of a taboo subject to many, and to society in general.
Some are embarrassed of their own mental struggles, being brought up in a society which still associates mental illness with weakness, when mental illness is as common as any other physical ailment. This is the main issue with mental health, and why it is so underestimated and misunderstood: there isn’t always a physical marker that shows others how a mental illness feels, and how incapacitating it can be. Those around someone with depression, or someone who suffers from anxiety, need to believe them, and this belief doesn’t always translate into understanding.
Therapy is a very personal thing: those who feel weary of having to share with others that they go to therapy can easily explain why these sessions are highly recommended, and why everyone, independently of their mental health, should seek them. But they can also keep this to themselves, if they wish to do so.
Therapy sessions are private, and with Online Counselling they can be accessed from the comfort of a house, a car, or on a morning walk.
There are many reasons why people shouldn’t wait for signs of mental illness to seek therapy, and why those who don’t suffer from it have so much to gain from regular sessions.
We all have our issues and daily problems
Everybody needs to vent at one point or another. Small issues can still bother us and stay on the back of our mind for days, like a small stone inside a shoe. These may be work related issues, trouble with friends, or a family row, very often a problem becomes less so when we put it into words.
Therapists are there to listen to every single one of our complaints, even those who seem to be of no importance, and they offer guidance with no judgment.
It helps those around us
Venting with friends is helpful, but friends don’t always have the mental space to deal with our ramblings, and most of the time they are not prepared to deal with whatever is thrown at them. They are biased, and may take sides, and even make us angrier than we were to start with, as it is no small task to separate the personal relationship and look at the problem for what it is.
If problems persist and venting becomes a regular event, friends may become weary and seek to distance themselves as a way to find some peace of mind. Friends care, but they are not equipped to deal with someone else’s issues in a practical, factual way.
Therapists are unbiased, trained to listen and help find solutions effectively.
The hour belongs to you
Everybody needs a little bit of time for themselves, and everybody accumulates negative emotions in their daily lives.
Knowing that you have a specific time to talk to someone about yourself and what is going on in your life, will help you keep your thoughts and emotions controlled. It will be easier to set problems aside for the therapy session, and to focus on what needs to be done instead.
On the other hand, even when you are happy, it is nice knowing you can share your achievements and happiness with someone who is there to listen to you without expecting you to listen back. There’s no pressure on your side to reciprocate, or to feel like you are talking too much, or taking too much of someone else’s time.
Improves our relationships
Therapy offers us a better perspective on what we are going through, it teaches us to deal with even the smallest of issues, and to better control our thoughts and our emotions.
In a perfect world, everyone would go to therapy, and everyone would be better prepared to manage their emotions, thoughts, and anxieties, and to offer their support to others.
Keep small things, small
Small issues, when not tackled, can become huge issues. Therapy will help you recognise and control them.
Get to know yourself and others
We think we know ourselves better than anyone else, until someone starts pointing things out we had never considered.
Therapy offers individuals better knowledge and understanding of themselves, better control and better results, especially in the long run.
It may not be the magical process most expect, but it teaches to deal with negative emotions, preparing and training people to make the best out of a difficult situation, avoiding bigger crises.
It also helps with empathy. The better we understand ourselves and others, the less likely we are to feel angry when someone does something wrong, and which seems to make no sense. We become more open to listen, and to go to the root of other people's feelings and actions, rather than taking everything too personal.
Couples Therapy and Online Counselling
In all relationships, communication is key, but not everyone has been taught to communicate effectively.
For Couples, even if the individuals are happy with their partner, and there are little to no fights, Online Couple therapy will help them keep the relationship in check.
Here are a few things Online Counselling for couples can help with:
Things should never be left unsaid, but the way to say them is also important.
Therapy will teach individuals to communicate with their partners effectively, even when bringing up sensitive issues, and it will open the couple to better express their emotions and feelings. It will help create an honest and supportive relationship, allowing the couple to figure out what works best for them as individuals, and as partners.
Recognising problem early on
Sometimes it feels like everything is going well, but maybe individuals just aren’t recognising troubling patterns, or are weary of bringing up small troubles to an otherwise great relationship.
Therapists will encourage couples to go over even the smallest concerns, so that they can be extinguished then and there, preventing future issues that may have lasting effects on the relationship.
Giving an unbiased perspective
A lot of people go to therapy believing the therapist will take their side, presenting their partner with all the wrong things they're doing. This is never the case. The therapist takes no sides, and knows that each individual has things to work through, before they can work things together as a couple.
The therapist will offer unbiased opinions and guide the couple to find a solution, with the main aim of helping both individuals, and the couple, to succeed.
It is better to try things out when therapy is preventive, as it can avoid needing an active treatment later on. A regular check-up should be the aim.
Therapy helps create balanced individuals, who know themselves, their limits and boundaries, and who are open to deal with their problems face-on.
Online Counselling by Stack offers therapy by expert counsellors, who look forward to working with you and your partner, to bring out your full potential, and help you in keeping a healthy mental life, and healthy, fulfilling relationships.