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How Divorce/Separation Impacts Family & Children

How Divorce/Separation Impacts Family & Children

When two people finally decide that they can’t work out their differences and they have tried to seek counselling with no positive results, the best option can be to get a divorce. It’s not often that people are told that this is the best decision, but sometimes it’s unavoidable. The problem with getting a divorce is that this can have a very serious effect on those around us too, and especially on our children.

If you have children and you are getting divorced, you need to consider the emotional damage they will have to endure. There are other members of your family that could be affected by this as well, so it’s always good to look at the bigger picture. Most people would agree that staying in a toxic relationship can be more harm than good for children, but this doesn’t mean that a divorce is not going to be an emotional taxing experience for them.

Children who deal with divorced parents are often going to grow up with very little faith in relationships. This experience will be more than enough to make them feel pessimistic about love, respect and commitment. Parents need to be able to talk to their children and let them know that you both love them very much and that you needed to break your relationship up because it was the best way to maintain a harmonious life.

It might be hard for them to understand this, but it will be easier if you treat each other with respect and a positive attitude when you see one another. This is going to make it much easier for your children to handle this situation and they will learn to deal with your divorce without so much resentment.

Seeking counselling even after divorce can be a great way for you to handle your relationship with your ex-partner. A professional counselling session is going to teach both of you how to deal with the new relationship you have. One that is built entirely on the children you both have in common.
If you are interested in getting the most professional and high quality counselling, you can contact us today to schedule a session. We will help you get through this difficult time. We are experienced in every aspect of relationship counselling and we know how to deal with people who are learning how to communicate after a divorce.

If you’ve recently been through a divorce or separation and need some support or assistance, get in touch with the experts at Stack Counselling today.

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How do I Get My Relationship Back on Track?

How Do I Get My Relationship Back On Track?

There’s no denying that relationships are complex and hard to manage at times. Even our interactions with our friends can be complicated, but romantic relationships are by far the most challenging, volatile, and intense considering there are many emotions present that are typically absent in other kinds of relationships. In today’s article, we’re going to shed some light on the topic and offer some useful tips if you find yourself trying to get your relationship back on track.

Communication is Paramount

People can typically come up with hundreds of reasons why a relationship can begin to fail, but the truth of the matter is that a lack of communication between partners is often the underlying reason which brings to the surface a myriad of other issues. If partners don’t communicate their feelings and emotions with one another, these other issues begin to intensify and strain the relationship even further.

If you’re a laid-back type of person who doesn’t let the little things bother you, chances are you’re likely causing more harm than good and are preventing the relationship from being in good shape. One of the most misunderstood mistakes that couples make is believing that saying nothing and swallowing your pride is better than saying something and potentially causing an argument. Don’t forget that it’s normally the arguments that partners have in a relationship that allow it to be strengthened over time.

Having the ability to talk freely with your partner when something has happened that makes you feel uncomfortable is paramount to the success of the relationship. It’s always better to talk about issues (no matter how big or small) that are bothering you even if it makes both parties feel uncomfortable. It doesn’t matter how strong your relationship is, if you stop communicating with one another then your partnership is doomed to fail.

Repetition destroys passion

While many people find comfort in a daily routine, this can have adverse consequences for a relationship. Keep in mind though that this problem can be easily solved by changing some basic aspects of your daily life. If you’re in a position where you feel that your relationship can benefit by trying new things, let your partner know! This is the most simple and effective way of keeping the spice in the relationship.

On the other hand, some people may believe that being intimate with your partner every day is necessary, but keep in mind that this may also become tedious if it becomes part of your regular routine. Even the most stimulating things can quickly become a repetitive task if done too frequently. It’s important that you strike the right balance with everything you do in your daily routine to ensure you fulfil all your responsibilities and have enough enjoyment and pleasure.

Conclusion

There’s no doubt that romantic relationship are fantastic experiences so long as we understand how to properly manage them. Remember, it takes two to tango and communication is key! If you both have the desire to keep improving for yourselves and each other, you’ll find your relationship to be very rewarding and won’t have any problems when dealing with challenging issues.

Having a partner who you love and trust and know will always be there for you is a treasure that only few people value as much as they should. If you feel that you need a qualified counsellor to talk to about your relationship, get in touch with Stack Counselling today for a free 15 minute appointment.